For some people, facing a serious illness like cancer can raise profound existential questions, such as ‘Why me?’ ‘Why now?’ ‘If my time is limited, how do I want to spend it?’
Some survivors report that the disease helped them find a more meaningful, authentic, and spiritual life, and prompted a deep longing to feel held by something larger than themselves.
Understanding spirituality
Spirituality is often understood as a connection to something larger than oneself, offering a sense of purpose and a feeling of belonging or interconnectedness. It’s about a person’s search for meaning and connection, exploring questions about significance and what lies beyond everyday life.
For some, this may mean being part of an organised religion. For others, it can mean connecting to nature or a higher power. It could also mean focusing more on mindfulness and presence – living in the moment rather than worrying about the future or dwelling on the past.
Why connection beyond yourself matters
Spirituality can help you find comfort and meaning amidst the physical and emotional turmoil of cancer, allowing you to better adjust to and cope with illness.
Studies in oncology consistently find that spirituality – whether religious or not – is linked with better coping, less distress, and a stronger sense of purpose for people with cancer. Spiritual wellbeing has been associated with lower anxiety and depression, more hope, and improved overall quality of life, even in advanced cancer.
It is not uncommon for people with cancer to make significant life changes – or simply adopt new lifestyle habits – as they begin to focus on what feels most meaningful in the face of uncertainty.
Feeling part of something bigger
There is no “right” way to feel connected to something bigger than yourself during cancer. Your path might be through religion, or something as simple as:
- nature: sitting under a big tree, or watching the sun rise
- stillness: closing your eyes and placing your hand on your heart
- signs: the exact song you needed coming on unexpectedly
- community: sharing stories with people who ‘get it’
- practices: journalling, meditation, breathwork, yoga
- loved ones who have passed: in dreams, memories and reminders
- remembering you’re already connected: to the earth, your loved ones, and every person who has walked a similar path.
This connection can be a powerful source of steadiness in a very uncertain time.
Remember: simply surviving one day at a time is enough. You don’t have to force understanding or change amid significant stress. If connecting with something bigger than yourself feels out of reach right now, consider talking to trusted family or friends, or joining a support group, to remind you that you’re not alone.
